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The Deep Stuff that We Avoid...

The Deep Stuff that We Avoid...

You arrive at a party. All sorts of friendly faces everywhere...

And, if you stop to observe for a moment, what’s the first thing that so many people do? They slide up to the bar to grab a drink...

That social lubricant - that makes people feel more CONFIDENT to just be around other people, to just be themselves, to ask that person out, to go on that date, and to deal with the complexities of every day life...

I’ve recently decided that I don’t want alcohol to be a part of my life anymore. I can’t say that I’ve had a “perfect” relationship with drinking and I’m definitely not here to guilt or shame anyone for drinking AT ALL, but what I’ve found is that grabbing that completely normalized-by-society drink or 2 is the easiest way to avoid and numb out deeper emotions.

Last night we had a happy hour at our house, and while I love to host parties, I’ve always been the one to get a bit anxious before people come over. Thoughts like: “Will there be enough food?” “Will people like the food?” “I hope that everyone has fun... is the house clean enough... and I hope that the dogs behave” usually run through my brain on rapid fire...

Which usually triggers a bit of social anxiety in me throughout the night...

But you see, emotions always serve a purpose. They’re neither good nor bad - regardless of whether they feel positive or unpleasant. They’re simply our subjective response to the world around us OR the perceived world around us...

They’re there to teach us something. To tell us something. To clue us in to where we need to stop, look, and listen to our heart or what’s going on inside. Most importantly, they’re there to guide our own growth & survival.

So as company came over last night, and I offered everyone a glass of wine or a beer, of course my typical pattern of wanting to fit in, “let’s relax, have a drink” popped up...

But, my bigger desire was actually to just not drink. To be completely present. To be totally in the moment. To be absolutely safe and confident as ME - without any social lubricant or liquid courage whatsoever.

And when I woke up this morning, I felt AMAZING. I had a great night, and I looked back on all of those times when I thought that I needed a drink to have fun. What I saw was a woman who lacked confidence, who worried about if she was enough, who doubted standing in her own power 100% of the time. Who’s had drinks to feel good, relax, etc then only been left with a hangover & exhaustion the next day.

Listen, I’m not preaching to you today to stop drinking. If that’s what you’re hearing, then you’re missing the point - entirely. What I’m suggesting is that you do the things that put you outside of your comfort zone, you try the things that are in your heart that go against the societal norm, and even if you feel awkward or unsure or like you want to revert to your old ways in the moment, that you instead stand strong. No matter what that means to you. No matter how big or how small.

Each little change that you make in your life adds up to be your lifetime. Each time you stretch, you grow your capacity to stretch further the next time. So, this weekend, try one thing that feels a little bit scary - especially if you know that it’s good for you!

And if you want to stretch yourself into your full potential in life, business, and love and you’re ready to achieve the results that don’t currently seem possible - that super successful business, that really healthy marriage, that healthy body, mind, and spirit then schedule a call with me and together we’ll help you to hit your biggest goals FAST.

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